Solitude Date

In a world where society normalizes companionship, solitude is also essential.

The other day, I had an impromptu solo "date night" in the comfort of my home. While I often set aside some time alone, this time was different because I completed a project. I made a fulfilling dinner, lit my "I Got Time Tonight" candle, listened to old-school R&B music, and painted a portrait. Not only was it therapeutic, but it was a much-needed night to myself that I didn't realize I needed.

Solo Dates (Solitude Dates) should definitely be normalized. Solitude is vital because it allows you to self-reflect, explore your creativity, think clearly, and center yourselves. I didn't realize how good of a painter I was until I made this portrait. I last painted in my undergraduate years in college. As I painted, I remained present in the moment and didn't focus on anything else. I put my phone on "Do Not Disturb" to ensure I could have a night of uninterrupted time. I would love to do this more often.

Solitude is essential, and here at Lolights, we promote what's necessary to your mental well-being. Set some alone time for yourself, read a book, paint a picture, draw/write, meditate, pray, or even sit in silence; do whatever you need to create peace. Taking yourself out is also a great idea. If I could give you one tip to consider as you plan your "solitude date," it would be to take a break from your television and phone to promote creativity and awareness. We have the ability to create peace for ourselves, and it starts with setting personal boundaries. Cut out the noise from the hustle and bustle of daily living and plan some time with yourself.